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Okay, I need an opinion on things.
I caught my "friends" bitching about me on a night out. They thought I had gone home, I hadn't. I was dowstairs talking to a friend came upstairs and went into the bathroom. I was about to walk out when I heard them outsde saying that they couldn't believe I'd left and I was "a fucking prick" for doing it and they bet I'd done it because I thought I wasn't getting enough attention.
I walked out said I'd done nothing of the sort but thanks for thinking so much of me, then left.
They have texted me apologising a couple of times but I have been ill/busy/just not in the mood to deal with it.
Today I was up in my cousins and they rang but I was busy and couldn't answer. They texted me because they were together saying answer your phone we want to talk to you about the other night and other things (which means they have sat talking about me and come up with a list of things to be mad at me for to justify what they did). So answer my phone, they've apologised what more do I want, we should have grown out of this by now.
I can't decide if I should text them back or if I should be round them... I just can't decide. I've known them for several years but they drama is so exhausting.
I caught my "friends" bitching about me on a night out. They thought I had gone home, I hadn't. I was dowstairs talking to a friend came upstairs and went into the bathroom. I was about to walk out when I heard them outsde saying that they couldn't believe I'd left and I was "a fucking prick" for doing it and they bet I'd done it because I thought I wasn't getting enough attention.
I walked out said I'd done nothing of the sort but thanks for thinking so much of me, then left.
They have texted me apologising a couple of times but I have been ill/busy/just not in the mood to deal with it.
Today I was up in my cousins and they rang but I was busy and couldn't answer. They texted me because they were together saying answer your phone we want to talk to you about the other night and other things (which means they have sat talking about me and come up with a list of things to be mad at me for to justify what they did). So answer my phone, they've apologised what more do I want, we should have grown out of this by now.
I can't decide if I should text them back or if I should be round them... I just can't decide. I've known them for several years but they drama is so exhausting.
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so, you could "forgive them" in the sense that maybe they are good to have around for a good time, but maybe you might not ever be close with them again. So essentially, use them as though they might have been using you. Turnabout is fairplay.
Secondly, you could just completely git rid of them altogether - not something I would normally advise. The old saying goes, "keep your friends close, but your enemies closer". I'll be honest, I don't like to make enemies of people.
then the third option of completely forgiving them and going back to the way things were.
All options are viable, you just have to choose the right path for you and your person. Basically, it's what makes you happy and the choice that you can live w/.
I hope this helps in some way. If you have questions are need further comment, then I will be happty to elaborate in email format. Either way best of luck and keep your chin up. You are an awesome person, and thus don't deserve to be treated badly. :)
I'll be okay. I'm just cranky over the text I got today. I hate that they were together and obviously going to gang up on me on the phone. Also that they think I have nothing better to do than wait in and take phone calls from them. I was helping my cousin with some college work and my young cousin was there. I wasn't getting into a discussion infront of them.
I'll just have to see how I feel. I hadn't really spoken to them because I wanted to give myself time to calm down so I didn't make any rash decisions based on my anger. Them making it sound like I've done something wrong isn't helping this. I'm sorry but in this scenario I have done nothing.
Oh well... perhaps I should go with the season and forgive. Also I'm re-reading Yes Man at the moment and this is a pretty big yes.. maybe I should just do it. I know I'll never be as close to them again. Anytime I'm not around them I'll be wondering what they're saying about me and everytime we talk I'll hear what they said about me... such is life.
Thank you for your wonderful advice. It's nice to know there are good people who actually care. Even if they're a continent away. :)